Emotional Abuse of Children

Childrens Act 2004 defines emotional abuse as: Emotional abuse is the persistent maltreatment of a child such as to cause severe and persistent adverse effects on the child’s emotional development. It may involve conveying to children that they are worthless or unloved, inadequate, or valued only insofar as they meet the needs of another person. […]

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Carl Jung

We are all influenced by others, throughout our lives.  This one man and his wonderful mind, has influenced me greatly: 1.”One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light but by making the darkness conscious.” 2. “Don’t hold on to someone who’s leaving, otherwise you won’t meet the one who’s coming.” 3. “Until you make the […]

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Gaslighting

It is a beautiful day here in Manchester.  I have no idea why I am drawn to blog about abuse tactics, but my blogs seem to have a mind of their own.  I simply feel a fire in my belly, run with it and before I know it there is a blog.  So here is […]

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Verbally Suppressing Children

I am proud of my 5-year-old daughters ability to produce the greatest of flatulence noises, using only her arm.  I have just been pottering around cleaning and she proudly requested my attention, to show me her raw talent.  I found myself about to say ‘stop; don’t do that it is rude’ with images in my mind, […]

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Enabling and Dis-empowering.

Looking a little further into addiction, the topic of enabling is a very important factor in addiction and dysfunctional relationships in general.  Here is a definition of enabling:  give (someone) the authority or means to do something; make it possible for. We are encouraged to be helpful and kind, so is enabling simply something that […]

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Communication skills

Communication can either break down or improve relationships.  Coming from a counselling perspective, here I will try to focus on how to communicate feelings, healthy communication, unhealthy communication and general communication skills.   We communicate daily, with partners, children, friends, family and work colleagues and sometimes even strangers. We develop styles and patterns of communication […]

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Managing Conflict

The following is a short story that I use often in my counselling sessions.  It is excellent for anyone who struggles with anger or anyone who is around negative, critical or even emotionally abusive individuals. There once lived a great warrior. Though quite old, he still was able to defeat any challenger. His reputation extended […]

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