It has been a while since my last blog and there have been huge changes globally.  My last blog was wrote after Brexit, when I felt I needed to write due to the nasty abuse that was directed at the working class.  I wrongly directed my anger at middle classes, since then I have come […]

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It is a beautiful day here in Manchester.  I have no idea why I am drawn to blog about abuse tactics, but my blogs seem to have a mind of their own.  I simply feel a fire in my belly, run with it and before I know it there is a blog.  So here is […]

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Managing Conflict

The following is a short story that I use often in my counselling sessions.  It is excellent for anyone who struggles with anger or anyone who is around negative, critical or even emotionally abusive individuals. There once lived a great warrior. Though quite old, he still was able to defeat any challenger. His reputation extended […]

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Overly Doting Grandparents?

I am sure many will relate to this.  I have a large age gap between my middle son and youngest daughter and I definitely can see how experience and being older and wiser and learning from mistakes can be part of how I parent. The Image of grandparents doting on their grandchildren, often makes us […]

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Isolation is very common, but why is there such a stigma around isolation?  Why is it so difficult for some people to admit that they may at times experience it? It can affect pensioners, divorcee’s, victims of bullying, domestic abuse victims, family scapegoats, students, professionals, rich people, freelance workers, self-employed, popular people can feel isolation, […]

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