Emotional Abuse of Children

Childrens Act 2004 defines emotional abuse as: Emotional abuse is the persistent maltreatment of a child such as to cause severe and persistent adverse effects on the child’s emotional development. It may involve conveying to children that they are worthless or unloved, inadequate, or valued only insofar as they meet the needs of another person. […]

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Gaslighting

It is a beautiful day here in Manchester.  I have no idea why I am drawn to blog about abuse tactics, but my blogs seem to have a mind of their own.  I simply feel a fire in my belly, run with it and before I know it there is a blog.  So here is […]

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Verbally Suppressing Children

I am proud of my 5-year-old daughters ability to produce the greatest of flatulence noises, using only her arm.  I have just been pottering around cleaning and she proudly requested my attention, to show me her raw talent.  I found myself about to say ‘stop; don’t do that it is rude’ with images in my mind, […]

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Enabling and Dis-empowering.

Looking a little further into addiction, the topic of enabling is a very important factor in addiction and dysfunctional relationships in general.  Here is a definition of enabling:  give (someone) the authority or means to do something; make it possible for. We are encouraged to be helpful and kind, so is enabling simply something that […]

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Why do I feel so unhappy?

This blog is for the many people I have worked with who have felt like their ‘issues’ were not worthy enough to warrant feeling so unhappy; and the many others out there at risk of dismissing their discontent.  Many times I hear statements like ‘I should not be feeling like this’ or ‘I have no […]

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Managing Conflict

The following is a short story that I use often in my counselling sessions.  It is excellent for anyone who struggles with anger or anyone who is around negative, critical or even emotionally abusive individuals. There once lived a great warrior. Though quite old, he still was able to defeat any challenger. His reputation extended […]

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